Parents usually focus on many aspects in raising their children and don't give too much attention on the part where discipline and punishment are the two most important raising techniques parents should teach. The definition of Discipline is to teach your child of acceptable and unacceptable behaviours. Discipline should be a positive action you do, or in other words a positive force which helps you in building your child's behaviour in a good way. The goal a parent will want from discipline is to change her child's unorganized and random behaviour into a more organized and controlled behaviour. This goal can be achieved by teaching, firmness, and reminders. In addition, many techniques lay under discipline, one of which is punishments. Punishments come in various forms, such as physical (a light spank); or psychological disapproval, isolation from others, or withdrawal of privileges. The reason for punishment is to eliminate unwanted bad behaviour.
The answer to this question is punishments eliminate misbehaviour. Punishments alone does not stop misbehaviour. Instead, punishments are valuable only in the cases where acceptable alternative actions are taught while the undesirable behaviour is held. Don't use severe punishments which will reflect in a bad way.
Severe punishment used regularly to discipline can reflect in an undesirable consequence. For example: A child might think or feel that punishments are a way of defending yourself or have a feeling a force over him, and by that learn only that a large person has power over a smaller one. â€œSevere punishment can also arouse feelings of resentment, counter-aggression, and deep humiliation. A child may develop unfeeling attitudes toward another person's pain. The use of punishment can be a problem if the punishment is severe and if it is the only method of discipline being used. Severe punishment also increases the possibility of incidents of abuse, as it becomes more difficult for a parent to judge the severity of the punishment.
Mild Punishing occasionally is ok and acceptable example of that would be not allowing a child to watch a favourite TV program. A parent should make sure to combine discipline with positive methods; examples would be praising or even rewarding for good actions.
Mild punishment used sparingly within a nurturing environment teaches a child that one can press the patience of others past a point of reasonable endurance. Punishment should not be used in instances when a child's behaviour is beyond her control (spilling milk).
Discipline is an ongoing process in which parents can help their children to become self-directed. The process is a complex one for both child and parent.
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